So this is kind of a random post but i was thinking today that I want to use this as my release to my thoughts an feelings an part of my personality is to kind of brag on myself. So a few weeks ago i wrote a piece called the relationship house. So i am going to copy an paste it here for you to enjoy as well. Let me know what you think!
I was sitting down thinking the other day about how a relationship works. An I came up with a visual in my head of how I viewed it. So i wanted to share it with everyone. This is long, so if you are going somewhere, or doing something important, come back an read it later. But if you need some entertainment, you might like this lol.
A relationship is like a house. You are in your car driving by a house that you see an you think it looks nice. You driving by, is you seeing a nice guy/girl that you think looks attractive. After you drive by if it was a nice enough house you turn around an pull into the driveway. Pulling into the driveway is going up to that person an making an opportunity to meet them. After you meet them if it goes well an you like them, or they are nice, you then move to the front porch. On the front porch, this is where you get to know the basics. Like hi my name is, im from wherever, im how old an you know the basics. Then if this goes well then the person invites you into their house. This is where the person wants to know you on a more personal level an to potentially date you. Once inside the door you are in the persons foyer. In the foyer you are getting to know the person on a deeper level. Trying to see what this person is really about an get more detailed information. Now this is an important place because both parties are able to play it safe. When right inside someone's door if it doesn't work out or something happens you aren't too deep into the house that it causes problems. Just like in a real house when u let someone in, an they do something that turns you off an you want them to leave. Its easier to ask them to leave while they are in the foyer compared to them being somewhere else in the house lol. Anyway while in the foyer, this is where the relationship can begin. The next step is moving to the living room. Both parties have to be ready to go to the living room which is represented with the official title of dating. While walking down the hall to the living room from the foyer both parties have grown to like each other an feel comfortable with moving farther into this persons house. Once in the living room you can sit down an get comfortable. Enjoying regular conversation, drinks, an going out an just enjoying each others company. Just like in a real living room this is where you are comfortable an its not stressful. This is where it is a place to relax an really get to know an understand the person. After the living room comes the kitchen an dinning room. Once you move to this part of the house things have become a little more serious. For girls once you go into a mans kitchen that is a big step lol. Men like a woman who can cook an by going into his kitchen you have made a major leap. lol. Once in the kitchen an dinning room you two have become a lot closer. This would be the place where some heavy subjects may arise but are never really fully addressed. Just like in a conversation at dinner its relaxing but you are still on your best behavior. After staying in the dinning room for awhile you are then able to get up an move to the stairs. Going past the front door again you are able to get out if you want to or go up the stairs. At this point you have truly gotten to know this person an they have shown you what they are about so you know now if you want to continue this or move on. Once you leave the dinning room you head up the stairs. Now the stairs are a tricky place. The stairs are very rocky an bumpy. Just like real stairs you have to take them slowly an work your way up. in a relationship this is where serious conversations arise. This is where politics, religion, family, an other really heavy subjects occur. They happen here because these take time, just like going up the stairs. Yes you may fall backwards a few steps but you can still go an reach the top. Once at the top you go to the study. Once you are at the study this is where you study his family an upbringing a lot more in depth. This is where you meet an spend more time getting to know his parents an siblings. He is going to be like his family because how he was raised an how he was treated will be how he will treat you. This is in the study because you are studying them as well as them studying you. This is an important place to be because once you leave the study, oh you cant leave the study until his/her parents have accepted you because if you move to fast the relationship will not be as strong as it could be. Let the family get a chance to know an like you. After leaving the study though, you head to the bathroom. In the bathroom this is where you take time to really self examine. look in the mirror at yourself an really see if this is what you want in a marriage. You are in deep now. There is no turning back really an you need to examine yourself an your partner to see if this is what you want first an if you are ready to move on. After leaving the bathroom you head to the master bedroom. This is where the marriage occurs. This is the final place to visit in the house an signifies that the house is complete.
Now about the house. You can not move to quickly through the house. If you have just met someone you can not run into their house an start eating in their kitchen. In real life if someone did this you would be very suspicious, like who do they think they are, right. So don't do that in your relationship house. Take your time. Also don't rush anything. If someone is in the foyer, don't try to drag them down the hall to the living room. Sit there with them an talk to them there for awhile until you are both ready to move down the hall. If someone is comfortable in the foyer or anywhere else wait on them to be ready to move to the next room. If you are in the kitchen/dinning room an your ready to head up the stairs an the person has just eaten an wants to rest before heading up the stairs, let them. Maybe you need to rest there too. Also while you are moving through the house do a little snooping along the way. Look at pictures on the wall, which are past relationships, look under couches, which are things that he wouldn't come out an just tell you. Look a long the way. See how the house is decorated. This is see how he lives his life. What's his lifestyle. Does he smoke, drink, have kids, been divorced, different things along the way that might impact or you feel are necessary information. When in the persons house, don't steel anything. Don't play with their emotions. If you really wanna move in their house don't try an manipulate them to do things an play with their feelings because in the end it will not turn out well. No one likes to have things stolen form them. An the last point is if the house looks to clean, such as that person looks to good to be true, you have to go in the house an see. Yes you may be disappointed once you get there an you realize oh he has a maid or his mother is the one cleaning, but you may find out that he or she really is the person that they say they are. So don't get stuck in one part of the house too long. If you stay too long then the other person might get impatient an move on. If they really want you they will wait but don't make them wait too long. Overall if you move through the house appropriately, you just might be able to start adding people to your house, such as kids, a dog, or anything else.
Well thats the relationship house an hopefully this gave you a good visual to how a relationship can an could work. So when in a relationship think about it as a house an make sure its the house you want to be in!
A relationship is like a house. You are in your car driving by a house that you see an you think it looks nice. You driving by, is you seeing a nice guy/girl that you think looks attractive. After you drive by if it was a nice enough house you turn around an pull into the driveway. Pulling into the driveway is going up to that person an making an opportunity to meet them. After you meet them if it goes well an you like them, or they are nice, you then move to the front porch. On the front porch, this is where you get to know the basics. Like hi my name is, im from wherever, im how old an you know the basics. Then if this goes well then the person invites you into their house. This is where the person wants to know you on a more personal level an to potentially date you. Once inside the door you are in the persons foyer. In the foyer you are getting to know the person on a deeper level. Trying to see what this person is really about an get more detailed information. Now this is an important place because both parties are able to play it safe. When right inside someone's door if it doesn't work out or something happens you aren't too deep into the house that it causes problems. Just like in a real house when u let someone in, an they do something that turns you off an you want them to leave. Its easier to ask them to leave while they are in the foyer compared to them being somewhere else in the house lol. Anyway while in the foyer, this is where the relationship can begin. The next step is moving to the living room. Both parties have to be ready to go to the living room which is represented with the official title of dating. While walking down the hall to the living room from the foyer both parties have grown to like each other an feel comfortable with moving farther into this persons house. Once in the living room you can sit down an get comfortable. Enjoying regular conversation, drinks, an going out an just enjoying each others company. Just like in a real living room this is where you are comfortable an its not stressful. This is where it is a place to relax an really get to know an understand the person. After the living room comes the kitchen an dinning room. Once you move to this part of the house things have become a little more serious. For girls once you go into a mans kitchen that is a big step lol. Men like a woman who can cook an by going into his kitchen you have made a major leap. lol. Once in the kitchen an dinning room you two have become a lot closer. This would be the place where some heavy subjects may arise but are never really fully addressed. Just like in a conversation at dinner its relaxing but you are still on your best behavior. After staying in the dinning room for awhile you are then able to get up an move to the stairs. Going past the front door again you are able to get out if you want to or go up the stairs. At this point you have truly gotten to know this person an they have shown you what they are about so you know now if you want to continue this or move on. Once you leave the dinning room you head up the stairs. Now the stairs are a tricky place. The stairs are very rocky an bumpy. Just like real stairs you have to take them slowly an work your way up. in a relationship this is where serious conversations arise. This is where politics, religion, family, an other really heavy subjects occur. They happen here because these take time, just like going up the stairs. Yes you may fall backwards a few steps but you can still go an reach the top. Once at the top you go to the study. Once you are at the study this is where you study his family an upbringing a lot more in depth. This is where you meet an spend more time getting to know his parents an siblings. He is going to be like his family because how he was raised an how he was treated will be how he will treat you. This is in the study because you are studying them as well as them studying you. This is an important place to be because once you leave the study, oh you cant leave the study until his/her parents have accepted you because if you move to fast the relationship will not be as strong as it could be. Let the family get a chance to know an like you. After leaving the study though, you head to the bathroom. In the bathroom this is where you take time to really self examine. look in the mirror at yourself an really see if this is what you want in a marriage. You are in deep now. There is no turning back really an you need to examine yourself an your partner to see if this is what you want first an if you are ready to move on. After leaving the bathroom you head to the master bedroom. This is where the marriage occurs. This is the final place to visit in the house an signifies that the house is complete.
Now about the house. You can not move to quickly through the house. If you have just met someone you can not run into their house an start eating in their kitchen. In real life if someone did this you would be very suspicious, like who do they think they are, right. So don't do that in your relationship house. Take your time. Also don't rush anything. If someone is in the foyer, don't try to drag them down the hall to the living room. Sit there with them an talk to them there for awhile until you are both ready to move down the hall. If someone is comfortable in the foyer or anywhere else wait on them to be ready to move to the next room. If you are in the kitchen/dinning room an your ready to head up the stairs an the person has just eaten an wants to rest before heading up the stairs, let them. Maybe you need to rest there too. Also while you are moving through the house do a little snooping along the way. Look at pictures on the wall, which are past relationships, look under couches, which are things that he wouldn't come out an just tell you. Look a long the way. See how the house is decorated. This is see how he lives his life. What's his lifestyle. Does he smoke, drink, have kids, been divorced, different things along the way that might impact or you feel are necessary information. When in the persons house, don't steel anything. Don't play with their emotions. If you really wanna move in their house don't try an manipulate them to do things an play with their feelings because in the end it will not turn out well. No one likes to have things stolen form them. An the last point is if the house looks to clean, such as that person looks to good to be true, you have to go in the house an see. Yes you may be disappointed once you get there an you realize oh he has a maid or his mother is the one cleaning, but you may find out that he or she really is the person that they say they are. So don't get stuck in one part of the house too long. If you stay too long then the other person might get impatient an move on. If they really want you they will wait but don't make them wait too long. Overall if you move through the house appropriately, you just might be able to start adding people to your house, such as kids, a dog, or anything else.
Well thats the relationship house an hopefully this gave you a good visual to how a relationship can an could work. So when in a relationship think about it as a house an make sure its the house you want to be in!
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